Aduke Obasanjo , the wife of the former president of Nigeria Olusegun Obasanjo during a church programme said, `it’s wrong to expect your husband to apologise’. In an exclusive interview conducted by Royal intern with some staffs at Royal FM, her statement brought about different reactions.
The station Manager, Mr AdeKunle Idowu said “There has been the Tradition that the husband is the Alpha and Omega of the House and they have the Tendency of Dominance as an African Man. Logically, it doesn’t make any Addition or Subtraction to me if I’m saying sorry, sorry should be part of Life, either as a Man or Woman you must inculcate the habit of saying sorry when you’re wrong.”
Adding to this, Mr Oladapo Oloyede opines “Different strokes for different folks, personally, when you wrong someone it’s courteous that you apologise whether you’re the Man or the Woman, as a matter of fact, I advocate for Parents when they offend their Kids, I advise both genders to apologise when they are wrong, it’s actually a sense of responsibility.”
However, Aduke in her statement urges women to learn how to lead their husbands to the bedroom and touch them romantically, responding to this, Oladapo says “what is kinky is kinky but if the Man is wrong, taking Him to the Bedroom is instilling some sense of irresponsibility and he will never take responsibility for his actions.”
Speaking with Rachael, she shared her opinion saying “It depends on the kind of relationship you have with the Man and depends on the kind of wrong and you as a wife expecting a sorry from your husband is kind of wrong because Men of Nowadays all want to prove the Boss of the House and if he says the sorry and if he does not say the sorry, take cold water and drink and let peace reign.”
Mrs Obasanjo mentions that it is an honour for women to bear the prefix ‘Mrs’ while Rachael objected to the statement saying “I don’t see you carrying a ‘Mrs’ as an achievement but the kind of society we found ourselves, once you don’t bear a ‘Mrs’ you’ll be tagged different names like ‘ old cargo, old Newspaper’.”
According to Mr. Femi, he said `husband and wife shouldn’t wait for whom to apologize, he as an example would apologize if he does anything wrong and even if he is right just to let peace reign.’ Speaking on whether woman should lead their husbands to the bedroom to resolve a fight, he said the bedroom should be a place to talk about what has gone down. Giving his opinion on whether being a Mrs. is an achievement, he said ‘being called a Mrs. is for responsible women’.
In another discussion with Mrs. Temitope, a broadcast journalist, she did not agree with the statement said by Aduke because according to her, when it comes to marriage, it takes two to make a marriage work. If you want the marriage to work, you must apologize when you do wrong even when you are not wrong. She added that the tag `Mrs.’ is what an honor but she doesn’t want young girls feeling it as an achievement because that’s not all that leads to life, it is a wonderful thing to be married but there is so many things than being a ‘Mrs.’. She regarded it as a level or stage in life.
On her part, Miss Joseph Victoria, said ‘she doesn’t know the reason why she said so but it doesn’t work for everyone’. Let’s call a spade a spade, if you do wrong apologize. The only word you can use to melt a woman’s heart is apologizing even when you are not wrong. The tag ‘Miss’ too is an achievement because it’s not easy also to be a single girl in this nation especially when you have responsibilities. The tag ‘Mrs.’ had led so many to their early graves, rushing into marriage even when it’s not yet their time. It is not by achievement to be a ‘Mrs.’, it’s by grace to maintain it, not everyone can maintain it. Some with the ‘Mrs.’ tag are not happy, the greatest achievement is happiness not even ‘Mrs.’
With the observed views of these people, the society, culture and Traditions have been determinant that influences people in their Relationship and Intimacy. From each responses, not everyone buy the idea. Whatever, the case may be happiness is the greatest achievement.